Premise: Practice Learning These New Ways Of Relating With Myself And My Sweetheart To The Best Of My Ability.
A more aware Me, In Touch with My Feelings, Emotions and Needs
To Know the depths of My Needs, and How to Ask For Them with kindness and vulnerability
To share love no matter what
Learn to communicate with my partner in ways that open OUR hearts
Create greater intimacy outside the bedroom
Conflicts and disagreements are the opportunity to create more intimacy
Find our co-creation and matching pictures as the result of conflict
Our love and relationship are the vehicle to know and experience God Within. The synergy of our love is the foundation of our continued awakening.
I Commit To:
Self love first
Sharing love no matter what
Making important decisions based on self love
Seeing my partner as the reflection of myself
Share how my partners actions feelings and behaviors are effecting me.
Sharing 100% of my truth no matter how I think my partner may react
Seeing conflict as an opportunity for greater intimacy
Keeping my word. 100% accountability
Keep time agreements or create a new agreement before default
Being as honest as I can……… always
Telling the entire story, especially the scary part.
When triggered to not pull away but to:
Ask for a Time Out, move energy if necessary, coming back to resolve in a timely manner
Answering difficult questions in a timely manner (keep your word), for future time to resolve
Agree to disagree
Learning and practicing the tools of Authentic Communication
Especially Communicating Vulnerably with “I “ statements
Stopping when our love does not flow and removing the blocks
Taking greater responsibility for anger and tone of voice
If or when we cannot find resolve we seek the support of a third party who is neutral, we both agree on.
As soon as I know I have been triggered, to speak up, Stop, take conscious action
My deepest needs
I Commit to NOT:
End this relationship while in fear or blame of myself or my partner
Blame my partner, push them away intentionally
Judge my partner, criticize or make them wrong
Judge my self
Fix my partner
Being abusive to myself or my partner, this includes abuse of silence
Ask my partner to change so I do not get triggered, share your hurts first
Compromise my self (morals, values) for the sake of upsetting or triggering my partner or trying to keep this relationship together.
I take these tools seriously and will not use anger or sarcasm to discount them.
We agree to not end this relationship in Fear. Not blaming, shaming, or guilting our partner.
We agree to not threaten breaking up or leaving the relationship.
We agree to do this with each other in our relationship for the next _______ months.
I agree to practice learning these new ways of interaction with myself and my Sweetheart to the best of my ability: